5 Reasons Dads Are So Important to Their Daughters
Much has been written and spoken about the mother-daughter relationship. Unfortunately, dads who are present, supportive, and involved don’t always get the credit that they deserve. This is a shame because the father-daughter relationship isn’t just special. It plays a pivotal role in the growth and development of the child.
So, let’s hear it for great dads! Here are five reasons why fathers are so important to their daughters.
1. Dad’s Create The Gold Standard For Future Romantic Relationships
As they get older daughters frequently pick mates who have similar attributes to their father. This means that dads really do model what their daughters learn to expect from relationships. This influence happens in many ways.
First, the way dads behave towards their daughter is key. Respectful and supportive fathers who keep their promises teach their daughters to expect that in their relationships. Daughters also see the way their fathers behave in their own romantic relationships. Finally, divorced dads should take note! The way dad’s interact with their former spouse can influence daughter’s as well.
2. A Father’s Love And Acceptance Greatly Impact Future Confidence
Loving fathers who provide praise, support, and unconditional love give their daughters the gift of confidence and high self-esteem. Daughters who have these traits grow into happy, and successful adults. Even better, dads don’t have to go to extraordinary lengths to make this happen. Simply being present, encouraging, and a good listener is often all daughters need to flourish.
3. Girls With Involved Fathers do Better Academically
Girls with dads who are involved in their educations often do better in school. If dads encourage their children to do well in school, help them when they struggle academically, and give them access to tools such as the best websites page for getting academic assistance, daughters can be amazingly successful.
Small acts such as helping with homework or encouraging daughters to take challenging courses can make a big difference. Dads who volunteer in schools demonstrate how important education is.
4. Fathers Often Encourage Their Daughters to Take Risks And be Adventurous
Whether it’s trying a new sport, enjoying new foods, repairing a car, traveling solo, or even standing up to a bully daughters often get their courage and sense of adventure from their fathers. However, dads must be careful in the way that they approach their daughters in order for them to learn these lessons.
Dads are often encouraged to be protectors, fixers, and rescuers. Sometimes this is a good thing. However, in order to raise daughters who are willing to be adventurous, are empowered to solve their own problems, and who feel capable of taking risks, good dads must go against these instincts. Instead, they can focus on telling their daughters that they are capable of doing most anything and empowering them to do so.
5. Supportive Fathers Can Help Improve Their Daughter’s Body Image
At some point, most girls feel less than confident with their bodies. For some, this is a minor thing. Unfortunately, for others, this can escalate. Girls with poor body images may isolate themselves socially, fret over the way they look, and lose confidence. In extreme cases, they may develop depression, anxiety, or eating disorders.
While dads aren’t the only people who influence the way their daughters view their own bodies, they do play a very important role. Not only do young girls take in the way that fathers speak to them about how they look, they are also influenced by the way their fathers speak about other’s appearance. Great dads speak respectfully about the way that people look regardless of their body type.
Daughters need great fathers. In fact, it would be nearly impossible to overstate the importance of the father-daughter relationship. Young women who have a positive relationship with their fathers achieve more academically. They make better relationship choices. They have high self-esteem. They believe they can achieve their goals, and they understand the importance of working hard in order to do so.
Loving, actively involved dads deserve praise and encouragement. They play a big role in turning girls into amazing women. That is something that we all benefit from.
It´s so important to take care ourselves and that includes exercise. Whatever that may be. It helps us physically, mentally and emotionally. Take the stairs instead of the elevator, park at the far end of the parking lot, it´s not raining so take a walk around the block. Whatever works for you do it. You deserve it.
There is something about reading a book the old fashion way. Holding the book, turning the pages, turning the corner down to mark where you left off and I always enjoy reading about the author and all those involved in writing the story.
Step away from the computer screen, the TV and your phone and pick up a good book and coincidentally (not really it was just a good segue) I have a recommendation!
Wow…… Based on true events and real women in history. It speaks to the strength of women despite hardship, sexism and stereotypes. This book has definitely been added to my favorite book list. Check it out. Literally…….at the library (so many puns).
P.S. Thank you Karen
In February I am going on a trip with a friend to Puerto Vallarta, so naturally I am thinking about what I am going to be wearing as I am lounging poolside with a drink in hand. This thought then leads to the dreaded task of finding a suit that hides the ¨flaws¨ and flaunts the good parts. My body has changed quite a bit in the last five years due to the crazy hormonal changes of menopause! I have cellulite in places I never had before, instead of a muffin top I have a big pound cake around my middle and even my hands and fingers are fatter (so weird). Most days I have to remind myself it’s all good, it could be worse and I am blessed to have the life that I have (as I think globally).
Anyway, back to this swimsuit thing…. I saw this picture of these women of different sizes and was reminded and inspired that no matter what swimsuit I end up buying there are no ¨flaws to hide¨ because cellulite is not a flaw it is a normal and natural part of our bodies (even thin women have cellulite). So I am going to focus on a suit that flaunts the good stuff and choose to own everything else. And enjoy that drink by the pool 🙂
January 2002 my boys had turned 5 and 3. For some reason I kept forgetting to make their yearly check up appointment with their pediatrician (maybe it was because I was working part-time, acting as the co-president of the pre-school, upholding home and household and mom responsibilities?) and when I finally remembered I wasn’t able to get them in until March. Within these two months my 5 year old, Griffin began wetting the bed at night and on occasion twice in one night. Griffin was potty trained pretty early (age 2 1/2 which I think is early, especially for a boy!) and had never had any accidents or bed wetting issues. At one point during this time I distinctly remember him looking down at our dog and I thought that my slim boy looked even slimmer. By March and before his appointment, T-ball had started. Griffin would be at practice or in a game and he could not make it from the plate to second base without waving me down for some water because he was so thirsty.
Finally in the third week of March we went to their yearly check-up appointment. Keep in mind our pediatrician knew our family well because my younger son Conner came out of the womb suffering from asthma. In fact, his doctor referred to him as the “happy wheezer” and had said he was the youngest she has ever had diagnosed with asthma. Because it was so severe she had him tested for cystic fibrosis (negative, thank god), he had inhalers, he had to use nebulizers, during the cold months he was prescribed amoxicillin (at the time he could only take in a liquid form and it was known as the worst tasting medicine which only made it that much harder to force a toddler to swallow and would alleviate his cough only to return when he was done taking it), pneumonia, etc. As a mother, it is very difficult to see your child coughing until his little face was so red or coughing until he vomited.
Anyway…..so here we are at the doctor’s office and I was telling her about Griffin wetting the bed, being thirsty, etc. I remember the look on her face, she had a slight frown and said, “lets check his urine.” She came back and said Griffin had a lot of sugar in his urine and then wanted to check his blood.
Griffin’s blood sugar came back with a reading of 429. Keep in mind that a normal blood sugar level is between 80 and 120. She mentioned the word diabetes. I asked if his the high blood sugar could be the symptom of anything else. She said no and immediately sent us to Emanuel Hospital. I was in shock. We left the doctor’s office, I piled the boys in the car and drove to the hospital. On the way there I called their dad and explained what was happening. By this point the gravity of it all had set it and I was in tears but trying to keep it together because I didn’t want to scare Griffin. My ex (at that time still current husband) was in denial, he couldn’t believe it, it was almost as if I had to convince him that his son had diabetes.
We spent the weekend in the hospital, not only for them to stabilize Griffin’s blood sugar but also to educate and teach us about diabetes, how to check blood sugar levels, how to know how much insulin to give and how to give Griffin a shot. It was a lot to learn, it was scary and we knew that our day to day lives would have a different focus.
A little 101 on Type I diabetes:
1. It is not caused by anything like eating too much sugar, etc. but the onset of it can be triggered by an illness like a cold or the flu.
2. The pancreas has stopped working therefore does not produce insulin.
3. You cannot control it with diet and exercise like you can with Type II diabetes. You will always need insulin. The commercials you see on TV regarding diabetes are for Type II diabetics.
4. There are many factors that you cannot control that affect blood sugar, ie illness, sun, worry, stress.
Griffin returned to preschool the following Wednesday and we were so blessed because his preschool teacher also had a child with Type I diabetes. As a new parent to a diabetic child, I was so thankful. And when Griffin moved on to grade school we continued to be blessed with the BEST school and nurse and staff who adored Griffin and took such good care of him. I also want to make note less then two weeks into this Griffin decided that he did not like the way his Dad and I were giving him his shots so at the age of 5 and from that day forward he gave himself his own shots.
So now Griffin is almost 22 years old and has dealt with this disease for the majority of his life. It hasn’t been easy. He has always fought “being different” and today he struggles with the idea that we can put a man on the moon, we have so many advances in science and technology but we have not been able to find a cure for diabetes? I get it. We are closing in on curing this disease and have made great advancements in the last sixteen years that Griffin has had this disease. I have always said to Griffin that I know their will be a cure in his lifetime but until that time comes it is still a daily grind of poking his finger, figuring out how much insulin he needs, giving himself shots and always being cognizant of what time he eats in relation to his workday and when to do his shot and what time of the day it is in relation to his insulin (sounds exhausting, doesn’t it?), picking up his prescriptions, going to doctor’s appointments, etc. He is tired of it and quite often his diabetes maintenance suffers from it BUT despite this he plugs along with doing it all and when he is ready he will fine tune his management of this disease and take control. As his mother I will always be concerned about his health and if he is taking care of his diabetes (I still can’t help telling him to check his blood before he eats). Even when he is 40 I will want to know about his A1c (the overall blood to sugar ratio) because what I see is my sweet, intelligent, good looking, funny (he cracks me up!) boy having to deal with this everyday and the profound effect it has on his life.
November is diabetes awareness month so I wanted to share my story. For more information on Type 1 diabetes please go to http://www.jdrf.org.